We don't want to hurt and that's exactly what we're doing... though what few realise, it's our own failure to take the right decision which cuts the most. We want to go back and reset... Most of the time we try not to disappoint people is when we do exactly that.
We need to learn from every decision we make, it is what can make us stronger and improve our decision making.
It's easy to say, harder to do... to learn and listen to our own mistakes is THE only way. We have to overcome our own disappointments, only then we learn.