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Ignorance, hate and judging

12/2/2015

When people are ignorant, it's so easy to tell them whatever you want and they'll believe you.
How many in history have manipulated people by keeping them ignorant and then blaming others.

Blindly following people can be very dangerous if you don't have a mind of your own. We can follow people, providing we can judge for ourselves, not because others tell us to judge.

Ignorance can also lead to people judging others. They only see what they see, but they do not know the full story. They start to make their judgement based on their own needs. To what they see what should be right for them.

We should not judge because of our ignorance. When we take the time to understand others, though we might not always agree, we can respect others.

My father once told me:

"Son, it's impossible to love everybody, but at least respect people."

It is something he lived up to. He did not judge, he tried to understand why certain things were the way they were.

November 21st, 2014

11/21/2014

When you're young, you have lots of dreams, wanting to move mountains...
You have your path set up in front of you.

Then...

You start your journey.

Along the way, you notice things don't pan out the way you want it. Your priorities change, sudden changes appear, obstacles...
People fall, they get up and fall again... people get up over and over, some loose hope and just stay where they are.
Their dreams seem to seep away, drained... their lives become an empty space which they try to fill up with other things...

We all have our dreams, we all have our obstacles... These obstacles should exactly be our boost to get up and show we CAN achieve.
Someone once told me : aim for the stars, you may get halfway.

Recently I spoke with someone who told me about her dreams. This person said her dreams can not be reached.
If we have no dreams, we have nothing left... our dreams are our motivation...

On the other hand you have the people who have so little left and they only loose themselves in their dreams, loosing sight of all reality, lost in their own space...

My journey started as an attented in a sportcenters... cleaning floors and bathrooms...
As my life progressed, I've done a few things I can be proud of. I worked my way up, performed in front of large audience, performed on TV, played a Klingon in a Star Trek fan series. Worked on a story for a potential TV series... Now I'm trying to get a short movie off the ground... unfortunately don't have the time to do it. But I have my dreams and one day they will take form.
I may not get far, but I can dream...

We need our dreams, but we still need to remain with our two feet on the ground.

Parenthood

10/7/2012

Children often have issues with their parents, some never forgive them for things which were done or not done. Do we realize how human we actually are or do we forget how fallible we are? Parents take decisions for their children which in their eyes at the time was the correct ones. Though afterwards they realize they could have done different, children don't realize why the decision was taken. We can not always understand why our parents did what they did; it is so easy to judge.

When we stare ourselves to the mistakes made, we blinde ourselves and forget our own mistakes. By staying stuck in the past, we will never be able to go forward and/or understand what happened.

Decisions

2/27/2012

Sometimes we make small decisions and sometimes because of the incertitude, we make the wrong one.

We don't want to hurt and that's exactly what we're doing... though what few realise, it's our own failure to take the right decision which cuts the most. We want to go back and reset... Most of the time we try not to disappoint people is when we do exactly that.

We need to learn from every decision we make, it is what can make us stronger and improve our decision making.
It's easy to say, harder to do... to learn and listen to our own mistakes is THE only way. We have to overcome our own disappointments, only then we learn.

Just my luck...

1/19/2012

During a research, they've noticed what "lucky" people had in common as what the "unlucky" ones.

What it all came down to was exactly the same what I've been working towards these last few years:
Being positive!

"Lucky" people are looking forward, thinking positive, knowing something will come along. This attitude opens them up for OPPORTUNITIES which come along. They SEE opportunities when they pass and they grasp them. They don't wait for something to come along, but they SEE when something DOES.

"Unlucky" people only see the negative things which pass; they linger on these negative things. Thus NEVER noticing the OPPORTUNITIES.

What people don't seem to realise is that negative experiences can be so positive. How can one appreciate the warmth if they have never been in the cold?
People who have been through hard times appreciate things much more once they see the good things which are coming their way.

Being at pit bottom, helps you look around and teaches you to haul yourself out of it. Only YOU can do it. People can help and throw ropes at you, but as long as you do not SEE that rope, you'll remain stuck.

Judges

11/25/2011

People often start to judge others, without even knowing them. They judge them on small details which they find irritating.
More often than not, this is simply a first impression. By keeping an open mind, we can get the chance to know that person, to realize our first impression was wrong.

Once I met someone whom I found a bit strange and he kind of irritated me. Until the day I started to KNOW him. He became my best Friend. He knows me and knows when something's wrong and he's there for me.

Giving people a change to know them enriched your life.

Confidence

9/25/2011

A lot of people are preventing themselves from growing as they are afraid of failure.

Failure is part of a growing process. Scientists, high IQ people, they have their failures. Though it's thanks to their failures they can learn. But then, these aren't failures, they're just things which didn't work at the time.

During training on a job, we had a test. One person told me afterwards she was disappointed. When asked why, she responded: she did worse than she thought.
As this was only a test, I told her not to worry, at least now she knows what she does and what she doesn't. Somewhat later she passed her exams.

Each day in our lives we learn new things, we make mistakes, but from them we learn.

At school, I never did really great, just average, today, so many years later, I still grow and learn. Once I had a test and I was so amazed I did so well.

We underestimate ourselves sometimes too often, however now I've learned to do my best, hope for the best and be prepared for the worst. This has nothing to do with lack of self-confidence, quite contrary, I' start to know what I can and then look where I can improve. This is where we start to gain and show our self-confidence. Knowing our weaknesses is exactly what makes us strong, what makes us grow.

Someone who's confident can admit his weaknesses, as he is no longer afraid of them.

Past Tense.

5/16/2011

Living in the past, how many people do so? Some people have a hard time to let the past go.

Living in the past, prevents us from going forwards. We get stuck; it's a burden from which we need to relieve ourselves.
Our past experiences make us what we are today. We should not forget these, but it should not be relived. It can be shared and passed on, passing on what we learned from it, not what we suffered from it.

We need to look forward, live today, but look for tomorrow.

Evolution theory

5/6/2011

As years go by, things around you change... but you change too. Actually one doesn't change, one evolves.
We are the sum of our experiences. Some people learn from them, some don't. Some just live within their own perspective and do not comprehend anything else. It's what we call narrow-mindedness. Narrow-mindedness is mostly created by one’s own fear, fear not being able to cope with what one could learn.
They don't realize to what they're missing. They stagnate, they don't evolve. Since everything around evolves, stagnation is as good as going backwards.

The hardest thing for people is admitting being wrong. Everyone is wrong once in a while, admitting it is no defeat, it takes a strong person to admit. Admitting adds to the learning process, which is a never-ending story.
Learning is a wonderful thing, it enriches us, it makes us more human, and it makes us feel good.

Don't be defeated, be happy...

4/22/2011

People can get upset for small things, not having their tea or coffee on time, their dinner not being warm enough, missing the metro, bus, tram, when there is one every 10 o 15 minutes...

Most of those times, things are not so urgent, so why get upset? Besides, how does that help you? It does help you raise your blood pressure.

There are very ill short tempered people and upon closer look, they are the ones who feel uncomfortable in their own skin. Have you ever met a happy person, genuinely happy who so easily gets upset? The answer will be no. Why? These people have accepted themselves, they accept things do happen.
Accepting the fact something happens does not mean one accepts defeat. Quite contrary, the mere fact of acknowledging this, leads the way to finding a solution. Just as with addicts, once they acknowledge the fact they’re an addict, they can start their way of rebuilding their lives.

Acceptance of things can also help you understand things, for with an open mind, you think more clearly. It will help you in the deepest pits you fall, for as someone once said: when you're at the bottom of a pit, there's only one way...

UP....