Tue, 28 Feb 2012 19:16:53 +0000WeeblyTue, 28 Feb 2012 01:39:15 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2012/02/decisions.htmlSometimes we make small decisions and sometimes because of the incertitude, we make the wrong one.

We don't want to hurt and that's exactly what we're doing... though what few realise, it's our own failure to take the right decision which cuts the most. We want to go back and reset... Most of the time we try not to disappoint people is when we do exactly that. 

We need to learn from every decision we make, it is what can make us stronger and improve our decision making. 
It's easy to say, harder to do... to learn and listen to our own mistakes is THE only way. We have to overcome our own disappointments, only then we learn. ]]>Fri, 20 Jan 2012 03:36:08 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2012/01/just-my-luck.html_During a research, they've noticed what "lucky" people had in common as what the "unlucky" ones.

What it all came down to was exactly the same what I've been working towards these last few years:
Being positive!

"Lucky" people are looking forward, thinking positive, knowing something will come along. This attitude opens them up for OPPORTUNITIES which come along. They SEE opportunities when they pass and they grasp them. They don't wait for something to come along, but they SEE when something DOES.

"Unlucky" people only see the negative things which pass; they linger on these negative things. Thus NEVER noticing the OPPORTUNITIES.


What people don't seem to realise is that negative experiences can be so positive. How can one appreciate the warmth if they have never been in the cold?
People who have been through hard times appreciate things much more once they see the good things which are coming their way.

Being at pit bottom, helps you look around and teaches you to haul yourself out of it. Only YOU can do it. People can help and throw ropes at you, but as long as you do not SEE that rope, you'll remain stuck.
]]>Sat, 26 Nov 2011 04:29:34 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/11/judges.htmlPeople often start to judge others, without even knowing them. They judge them on small details which they find irritating.
More often than not, this is simply a first impression. By keeping an open mind, we can get the chance to know that person, to realize our first impression was wrong.
 
Once I met someone whom I found a bit strange and he kind of irritated me. Until the day I started to KNOW him. He became my best Friend. He knows me and knows when something's wrong and he's there for me.
 
Giving people a change to know them enriched your life.
]]>Sun, 25 Sep 2011 14:40:03 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/09/confidence.htmlA lot of people are preventing themselves from growing as they are afraid of failure.

Failure is part of a growing process.  Scientists, high IQ people, they have their failures. Though it's thanks to their failures they can learn.  But then, these aren't failures, they're just things which didn't work at the time.

During training on a job, we had a test. One person told me afterwards she was disappointed. When asked why, she responded: she did worse than she thought.
As this was only a test, I told her not to worry, at least now she knows what she does and what she doesn't. Somewhat later she passed her exams.

Each day in our lives we learn new things, we make mistakes, but from them we learn.

At school, I never did really great, just average, today, so many years later, I still grow and learn. Once I had a test and I was so amazed I did so well.

We underestimate ourselves sometimes too often, however now I've learned to do my best, hope for the best and be prepared for the worst. This has nothing to do with lack of self-confidence, quite contrary, I' start to know what I can and then look where I can improve. This is where we start to gain and show our self-confidence. Knowing our weaknesses is exactly what makes us strong, what makes us grow.

Someone who's confident can admit his weaknesses, as he is no longer afraid of them.
]]>Tue, 17 May 2011 00:40:35 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/05/past-tense.htmlLiving in the past, how many people do so? Some people have a hard time to let the past go.

Living in the past, prevents us from going forwards. We get stuck; it's a burden from which we need to relieve ourselves.
Our past experiences make us what we are today. We should not forget these, but it should not be relived. It can be shared and passed on, passing on what we learned from it, not what we suffered from it.

We need to look forward, live today, but look for tomorrow.
]]>Fri, 06 May 2011 10:56:03 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/05/evolution-theory.htmlAs years go by, things around you change... but you change too. Actually one doesn't change, one evolves.
We are the sum of our experiences. Some people learn from them, some don't. Some just live within their own perspective and do not comprehend anything else. It's what we call narrow-mindedness. Narrow-mindedness is mostly created by one’s own fear, fear not being able to cope with what one could learn.
They don't realize to what they're missing. They stagnate, they don't evolve. Since everything around evolves, stagnation is as good as going backwards.

The hardest thing for people is admitting being wrong. Everyone is wrong once in a while, admitting it is no defeat, it takes a strong person to admit. Admitting adds to the learning process, which is a never-ending story.
Learning is a wonderful thing, it enriches us, it makes us more human, and it makes us feel good.

]]>Fri, 22 Apr 2011 16:36:50 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/04/dont-be-defeated-be-happy.htmlPeople can get upset for small things, not having their tea or coffee on time, their dinner not being warm enough, missing the metro, bus, tram, when there is one every 10 o 15 minutes...

Most of those times, things are not so urgent, so why get upset? Besides, how does that help you? It does help you raise your blood pressure.

There are very ill short tempered people and upon closer look, they are the ones who feel uncomfortable in their own skin. Have you ever met a happy person, genuinely happy who so easily gets upset? The answer will be no. Why? These people have accepted themselves, they accept things do happen.
Accepting the fact something happens does not mean one accepts defeat. Quite contrary, the mere fact of acknowledging this, leads the way to finding a solution. Just as with addicts, once they acknowledge the fact they’re an addict, they can start their way of rebuilding their lives.

Acceptance of things can also help you understand things, for with an open mind, you think more clearly. It will help you in the deepest pits you fall, for as someone once said: when you're at the bottom of a pit, there's only one way...


UP....

]]>Thu, 24 Mar 2011 12:48:48 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/03/waking-up.htmlFrom the people we encounter in our lives, we remember only a few. Those are the ones who had a major impact in our lives.

We learn from every one. Even from those who are negative towards us. Some are nasty, some are just intimidating. At first we fall for the intimation. Then come frustration and the anger. Those are our negative councillors. Then one day, we wake up... and actually that day we DO wake up and realise... We should not be angry at those people. We should feel sorry for them. They only live when they can feed on their anger and frustration.

In my life I met people who told me what, how is the correct way to think. A wise man will MAKE you think for YOURSELF. It is YOU who make the decisions, no one else. Not everyone will agree with what you think. There are too many differences. However, for all those differences, there is so much more to learn.
When working abroad, I met different cultures... and yet, in our differences, we were so much alike. Mutual respect, interest in each other’s thoughts, keen to learn from each other... No judgement because one thinks differently.
Learning enriches one's life, opens you up and frees yourself. This is the road that leads towards your inner self. And then comes the day frustration and anger finally no longer control you...


...that's the day you're Awake.

]]>Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:39:05 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/03/getting-older.htmlSeveral cultures deal with age in different ways. Many cultures regard and treat their elders with respect.
 
In our western society, elders are treated, more often than not, as children. We tend to forget or dismiss the life experience they have. They are considered senile even before they really are.
Elderly people can sometimes be difficult, but they still are people. They are the ones who taught us lots of things. And quite often still remember things which we forgot. Sometimes small details which seem unimportant, but had an important impact in life, whether our own or someone else's.
They made their mistakes, as do we. Their way of apologizing isn't always recognizable or is not being recognized.
 
Older people get dismissed so easily... but we can not dismiss getting old.
]]>Wed, 16 Mar 2011 23:08:49 +0000http://www.ledartagnan.net/2/post/2011/03/to-err-or-not-to-err.htmlCircumstances can often bring us to do hasty things. Being upset about one thing can lead us to become too negative and judge too fast.

These are facts of life. It's part of our human nature. But what makes us human is the fact we can realise the error we made. Acknowledging our fault leads us to apologies. Even if it's towards people we have or do not wish to have contact with for certain reasons.
This is the hardest part for many, admitting the fault and apologizing to such a person.

The more we do the more mistakes we can make. From our errors we learn, we learn only once we've acknowledge our errors.
We can have the best of intentions and still go wrong.


To err is human, stay human when in error.
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